sumtimes the in laws can b the prob

y do i say that the in laws can sumtimes b a prob? hmmm i shall tell u y.

there are several reasons that they can cause a couple to quarrel.
due to religion, personality, jealousy etcc... currently cant tink of others.
when i haf others in mind i will note it down.

religion? y religion? dun a religion teach everyone to b gd to bring peace and harmony?and build all the love tgt?but y religion can b one factor that cause probs in a family esp between in laws?

its a very complex to answer this question but then cuz my family experience this kind of issues thats y i cud convey this to ppl.

i shall giv live examples ba..

im a catholic and my mum in law is a christian.. both are actually the same religion.but cuz as catholic we honour MARY and for them they dun so they will criticise we catholic and expect us to follow their ways.like my mother in la she claims that we catholic dun pray as often as they do we dunno their scriptures and dunno this dunno that.

i cant say that all christians are unreasonable but most of them are esp those convert frm buddhism to christanity.. okokokok back to my context on hw does it affect..

we haf a conflict b4 regarding my baby's baptism.she kip wanting to baptise baby in her church and kip expect us to listen to her.. and also kip forcing me and dear to go her church to b baptise again which is so ridiculous.tings was sour at that time and me and dear kip quarrelling due to these issues.. sumtimes i dun understand y they jus love forcing others to get baptised even when they are nt willing.its wrong to force ppl esp on all this religious matters.. its shd b of free will


ok nw i shall tok abt the 2nd factor that i haf mentioned above. PERSONALITY. wat i mean here is the diff belief or opinions abt tings.

for me, i studied nursing b4 and i always belive in scientific proof rather than old wives tales.though old wives tales can b true in sum cases.

every women aft giving birth esp the asian, they will haf to go thru the confinement period which is one mth.and during this period they are told nt to do certain tings and supposed to abstain frm certain food.

i went thru that.and why i gt to go thru that unwillingly its because of her again.she insist that i cant bathe i cant drink water too much i cant this i cant that.its was so frustrating that time and as ppl noe that during that period most women might get post natal blues[depression] and this is the time when their emotions can b unstable.

many ppl present me w dom.. and its is supoosed to b drank for gd health for giving energy and also help in the circulation of our blood.but for me my body is very heaty[though they say post natal women's body are always cooling].so i cant consume those tings but then she kip insist as usual that i gt to tk or else i will noe.and u noe wat, i took it and i had fever that nite.cuz she insisted so i dun wan to let her kip nagging i jus drank it and that was wat i get.the next day when my hubby called me i quarrelled w him again and i wept.. cuz i felt so sick already.hw can i listen to all those old wives tales and go against my own wish.

my mum was the one who do the confinement for me and i feel that she done a gd job but my mil jus kip making comments and that was the time i reali flare up and shout at her.my mum look aft so many babies and also all this confinement ppl hw can she dunno hw to do it like wat my mil claims...

doesnt mean they belive all this old wives tales myths means we gt to belive.we haf our own beliefs so they haf no rite to put their beliefs on us... my own sis is also experiencing all this even b4 she is getting married.. sumtimes i feel that we asians ppl are so shallow.can they b open minded abt certain tings like the caucasians? i guess its hard ba.


the last factor-> jealousy

thank God i nv experienced this or else i will haf a hard time
y jealousy?

sum ppl haf onli one son in their family.y do i mention son and nt daughter? its cuz the chinese usually honour son more than daughter.y do one son does affect.. tis cuz they haf onli this precious and many old ppl always say, once a son has a wife they are like 'GONE WITH THE WIND' and they will always listen to their wives which may nt b true too.so sum mother in law esp them will find trouble to make the couple quarrel and jus create alot unnecessary trouble.

hw does this associate w jealousy? cuz when they are the onli son and when their mum saw hw gd they treat and pamper their wives, they will feel jealous. **it doesnt apply to all mum in law**
and when they feel jealous they will wan to find ways to make the couple quarrel and fight so that their son might find their way back hm and this is thetime when they will find ways again to tok bad abt their daughter in law.. there are ppl lidat which i find that they are a nuisance.its so selfish and wicked to behave this way...


wat i can advise is always tok to yr spouse abt the unhappiness and nt trying ways to get back.cuz in the end it will cause u into trouble.ur spouse might tink its u who done all this mess.. like wat i haf mention in my few days post, always tok tings out w yr partner.he might b able to help solve the differences.


though sumtimes in laws can b a nuisance whe they do all those stupid tings but..... we mus always rem to respect them like hw we respect our own family.its a MUST.dun forget.onli when we show them that we respect then we can reflect to them that we ahf a gd bringing up by our own parents... i can say that this is another way we can make our parents proud of their upbringing of us!

gd luck ppl... always gif peace and create harmony.